I am having a problem at work that makes me wonder about my future there. A particular co-worker frequently shows up at my desk and shouts in me in full view of members of the public and other co-workers. I have been working there nearly four years and a good portion of the time, this person seems normal and actually helpful, but it's like she turns into a different person and blames me for problems that are actually someone else's to deal with. Despite reporting to the boss about this, he doesn't seem to think this is a problem, but it seems like harassment. From what I have been able to find out my workplace does not seem to have rules against harassment that is not sexual or race-related, but they do have a conflict resolution procedure. My boss is at a conference, but when he comes back, my mentor and I will talk to him about what my options are. I am not sure what I should do. I really like living here and I love my job. I am keeping my fingers crossed while also putting aside extra savings just in case.
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January 25th, 2009 at 05:30 pm
January 25th, 2009 at 06:42 pm 1232908969
Lola
January 25th, 2009 at 08:04 pm 1232913864
Was this employee stressed out and overreacted or simply trying to pass the monkey on the back to you?
Or was this employee was trying to make you feel bad on purpose, somewhat like an open sniper?
If you can get to the root of the problem, you can drum up some responses that will either neutralize the situations or at least let this employee know how you feel and what she did was not okay. When you stand up for yourself without hostility, you show respect for yourself rather than keep it bottled up to only vent to the wrong person later. Tell the employee directly to not yell at you. If this person continues after that, it is definitely escalated to hostility or harassment issue.
January 25th, 2009 at 10:09 pm 1232921396
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January 26th, 2009 at 02:10 am 1232935828
January 26th, 2009 at 05:35 am 1232948124
January 26th, 2009 at 05:52 pm 1232992379
The next time this lady yells at you in public... go up to her 5 or 10 mins later in private and tell her you don't appreciate being yelled at in a calm manner.
This is giving her a nice warning.
If she takes the hint - great !
If she doesn't, then you are free to invoke the official dispute resolution/harassment procedures.
I know it is easier said here on a blog than done in real life. But it is the right thing to do. IMO.
January 31st, 2009 at 02:31 am 1233369118