Well, I did pretty good this week. I only spent around $2.00 each day on snacks and such and brought my lunch 3 days this week. I went out to lunch two days this week, but those are the only two days I have gone out to lunch so far this month.
On a more personal note, I am having some family issues. Some of you may remember that I had a major blowout with my mother about September 2007, I think. I have really spoken to her much since, and haven't spoken to her at all in almost a year. Because of not wanting to cause further trouble in the family, I had basically not spoken to most other family members. I did not want to get them in the middle of the dispute and make them feel like they were being pulled in both directions. My uncle found out how to get in touch with me and urged me to come visit. We originally had plans to visit on July 4th weekend. I just got an email from him saying mom told him and my aunt that if they remained in contact with me, she would refuse to speak to them. So, now she's not just messing with and trying to control me, but other people, too.
Progress on Lunch Challenge
June 25th, 2010 at 09:54 pm
June 26th, 2010 at 01:19 am 1277515163
You know, just because we are put into these little groups called families, it may not be the best place for us to be.
If your Mom was doing a lot of emotional damage to you and trying to do it throught others, you may just have to keep yourself out of the loop. You can always make new friends and that can be your family.
I had to do this. My Mom was a pill popping, alcoholic who did nothing but play mind games. I haven't talked to her in over five years. I can't talk to certain other family members, because she enlists them in helping with the games. She does it either with subtle manipulation or nagging and bullying. Even when she wasn't drinking, the behaviors were still there.
I can honestly say, I have more peace of mind and am not having to constantly be used, or look over my shoulder for the next emotional bomb. It is great, believe me.
Good for you! You can forgive without allowing the abuse to continue.